I heard someone say “He don’t like his ex’s, that’s why he doesn’t talk to them. He pretends he doesn’t know them”. I started thinking, those ex’s are not the same people that they use to be and that it’s okay to befriend an Ex. I am friends with my ex (just 1) and to be honest, we don’t flirt, we talk every once in a while and we do have each other on our social media’s. He called me to tell me he would be proposing to his girlfriend of 5 years and as his friend (no longer an ex) I am so happy for him and her as well.

Backstory; I was a monster when he and I was together and it took him a while to forgive me. But once he forgave me , he was able to reach out and we talked on the phone for hours. AS FRIENDS! No flirting, no crossing boundaries. Just friends , we caught up on the years we missed out on. I was NOT the best in that relationship and we both grew up. We both understood that we have moved on with our lives and it felt better this time around. Getting to relearn each other, actually understanding them, communication between us was (is) better.

I believe Guys and Girls (Exs) can be friends. As long as they BOTH know boundaries. And doesn’t cross lines, there’s a difference between what you felt and how you feel about them now.

But we grew up!

We Forgave!